Was your blind date a disaster?

I was in a restaurant once sitting next to a couple. It was clear that they were meeting for the first time, and was on a blind date or they had met over the internet. There was tension so thick you could cut it with a knife. He talked so loudly as if trying to impress everyone in the restaurant, and I could hear everything they discussed. I felt a sort of eavesdropper’s shame, as I heard every sentence, every word…

Was your blind date a disasterIt seemed as if he were digging his own grave. Error! Error! Error! I wanted to warn him, thumbs up at every success, thumbs down to every awkward sentence, every subject that he started was controversial. I can tell you that this was absolutely the first and last date with this girl!

Let the behavior of this one be an example of what not to do. Fortunately, there are some rules for a successful blind date. For example:

  • Avoid speaking loudly even if that is your way to suppress your nerves. Speak calmly and collected, show that you have your nerves under control.
  • Do not bring up uncomfortable or controversial subjects such as her view on having children or politics or religion.
  • Never, EVER say that she doesn’t look like her pictures for any reason (even if it’s extremely obvious)! She will feel that you are calling her a liar, in short, or saying she is ugly or old looking. There is no easier or quicker way to have a girl walk out on a date with you.
  • Did you fail the read the above statements and say it anyway? Don’t make it worse by trying to cover it up by saying something about her clothing. Women try their hardest to impress men, especially on a first date, and she probably feels she looks attractive so by criticizing her choices makes her feel unworthy of you.
  • Do not brag about your financial prowess or assume she makes more or less than you do. This simply is not a necessary topic of conversation and after all, you’ve only known her for 20 minutes…
  • Do not automatically speak from a pre-composed list of standard topics, but let the conversation flow freely. Be spontaneous, it’s not a job interview.
  • Avoid talking about your exes. She does not want to know or hear about them since you are on a date with HER.
  • Relax now and then. Let her talk and listen. She does not want to hear your monologue for an hour and probably have something nice to contribute to the conversation.
  • Do not pretend to be the most interesting or learned person in the world. If you have no idea what kind of wine to order, just say so or ask the waiter for his personal suggestion. Women will appreciate your honesty and see that you are willing to admit you are unsure of something, endearing you to her.
  • Pick the proper time to leave the restaurant. Ask for the bill and pay it discreetly.
  • Do not ask her to pay for her portion of the bill.

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