Things to Do Before Becoming a Parent

Things to Do Before Becoming a Parent

The reason I can’t even commit to a dog right now is that I’m so afraid of being tied down. I want to be able to take weekend trips without having to deal with finding a dog sitter. I want to go to happy hour or the gym after work and not have to feel I have to rush home to feed Fido. And if I already feel like a dog is too much commitment, how am I going to feel about a baby? I know if I had one tomorrow, I’d be overjoyed, but I think it’s important to feel a sense of fulfillment before you have kids because that bucket list is going to be harder and harder to accomplish once you have dependents, no? That’s why I’m going to work on Marc and Angel Hack Life’s list of 70 Things To Do Before Having Children. It’s a great list that involves simple things like taking time to read to big things like traveling the world and skydiving. Check it out. I’ve done the ones highlighted in red:

  1. Live in a high rise condo with an amazing view.
  2. Take a month long vacation on the opposite side of the world in a city with a completely different culture.
  3. Attend the Super Bowl live.
  4. Jump out of a perfectly good airplane.
  5. Make love in places you aren’t supposed to.
  6. Swim with the sharks.
  7. Scuba-dive to a large ship wreck.
  8. Audition to be on TV or in a movie… even if you’re just an extra(I’ve tried to audition, but didn’t actually get to)
  9. Throw the house party of all house parties.  Supply all the booze and invite everyone you know.
  10. Take sexy photos of yourself (keep them somewhere safe).
  11. Learn to fly a plane.
  12. Become skilled with a musical instrument(I can play the piano. ‘Skilled’ might be an overstatement though)
  13. Live in southern California for at least a year.
  14. Live in the heart of New York City, Chicago, Boston or another major city for at least a year.
  15. Spend a few weeks vacationing on the beaches of Kauai with your partner.
  16. Surf a Hawaiian wave.
  17. Learn to speak a foreign language (I can speak Spanish well enough and I’m studying French now)
  18. Visit the North Pole.
  19. Attend The Tonight Show or The Late Show as an audience member.
  20. Read at least 30 books.
  21. Jump off a cliff into a natural body of water in an exotic location.
  22. Go mountain climbing.
  23. Go deep sea fishing and learn to filet and cook your own fish.
  24. Go horseback riding on the beach with your partner.
  25. Drink warm beer out of a barrel in a real Irish pub.
  26. Spend a night pub-hopping in London.
  27. Stage dive and crowd surf at a rock concert.
  28. Take a set amount of money and hit the Blackjack and Craps tables in Las Vegas.
  29. Visit a high-end Las Vegas strip club.
  30. Embark on a month-long road trip across the country with 3 of your best friends.
  31. Ride a camel across a sandy desert.
  32. Go white water rafting.
  33. Go snowboarding in the Rockies.
  34. Get in great shape and enter some kind of fitness competition.
  35. Attain a solid understanding of how the government works in your country.
  36. Master one particular style of dance.
  37. Fall in love.
  38. Write a book… even if it’s short and never gets published.
  39. Drive through a (somewhat safe) portion of a third world country like Mexico or Costa Rica to gain perspective on what true poverty looks like.
  40. Go skinny dipping in a large body of water at midnight.
  41. Take a shower under a waterfall.
  42. Decide on your current life goals and write them down.
  43. Spend New Years Eve in Times Square.
  44. Go on a blind date (or a couple’s dinner date with new friends you hardly know).
  45. Sleep on the beach under the stars in Key West.
  46. Hit up Oktoberfest in Munich.
  47. Hit up Mardi Gras in New Orleans.
  48. Hit up Carnival in Rio de Janeiro.
  49. Experience Spring Break in all its glory in Cancun, Mexico or Panama City Beach, Florida.
  50. Catch a ride in a hot air balloon.
  51. Rent a fast sports car and speed down the Autobahn.
  52. Switch jobs until you find one you truly enjoy.
  53. Buy your first house.
  54. Own a convertible sports car.
  55. Hike the Grand Canyon.
  56. Attend a Red Sox vs. Yankees game in Fenway Park.
  57. Spend a whole day making love without every leaving the house.
  58. Learn to make one mixed cocktail like a pro bartender (I am a licensed bartender)
  59. Run a marathon.
  60. Stand up in front of a large audience and tell a great joke.
  61. Shoot a gun.
  62. Swim across the English Channel.
  63. Bicycle ride down a mountain road.
  64. Learn to sail a sailboat.
  65. Learn the basics of a martial art.
  66. Visit the Amazon Rainforest.
  67. Bare all on a nude beach.
  68. Master one really cool magic trick.
  69. Master a few fancy dinner recipes.
  70. Finish up your formal education (but continue learning) (I’ve got a BA in Public Relations)

The Nest recently posted its top 15 Things To Do Before You Have Kids List. See its picks:

  1. Go on a wine-tasting tour at a vineyard
  2. Go skydiving/bungee jumping/swimming with sharks…or whatever other crazy, life-risking thing you’ve got on your bucket list.
  3. Make a list of all the restaurants and bars you’ve been meaning to check out — and go.
  4. Appreciate the bathroom – alone
  5. Stop being so self-righteous (meaning – stop seeing a screaming child and saying “Ugh, my child would NEVER behave like that.”
  6. Take a road trip
  7. Be spontaneous
  8. Spend an entire day in bed together watching movies.
  9. Have boozy lunches with friends
  10. Feed your minimalist side
  11. Have morning sex
  12. Be the last ones to leave the party
  13. Fly first class
  14. Wear as much silk, cashmere, dry-clean-only clothing as you possibly can, while you still can.
  15. Take a career risk

How many have you done? Do you think it’s important to live for yourself a little before you bring kids into your family? I’m interested to hear your thoughts!

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